If a hug or embrace, a hand on your back, or a kiss on the head, make you uncomfortable, let that person know immediately—gently if possible or with a bit of humor. We all have different comfort thresholds for human touch, especially if that person is a stranger, a superior, or someone who does not have permission to touch you.

It’s no excuse that the violator ‘is part of an older generation who does not know any better,’ or ‘is a boss or superior.’ Don’t be afraid to take a stand or to educate. Your body belongs to you, not to any other person.

Especially in today’s environment of #MeToo, your prompt education of what might not be appropriate are more likely to be welcome and appreciated—and you will be drawing a firm line of respect.

Some behavior may seem innocent—such as taking a picture with a person who puts his hand around your waist and holds you tight. If that touch is ‘too close and personal,’ remove his hand immediately and say something like: “Wait, too close and personal!” Use a light-hearted voice and smile so he does not take offense. If he does not understand or seems confused, let him know that touching makes you uncomfortable. A casual, non-threatening tone is best.

If the behavior does not stop, then communicate more firmly. If the violator is still not getting the message despite your efforts, remove yourself from the situation and seek help from a person with influence. If all else fails and the behavior occurs at work, go to human resources and file a complaint. 

Any touching that is not welcome or without consent is never appropriate, no matter how ‘innocent’ such behavior may seem. Addressing the behavior immediately on the spot, might help the violator understand your concern and learn from it. For many, a potentially career saving move. 

What will you do today to be #beupstanding and help #changetheculture for an environment without #sexualharassment, #abuse, and #racism? #TimesUp. Let’s #playnice. To learn more, check out “Play Nice - Playground Rules for Respect in the Workplace,” and join us at www.thesandboxseries.com.